20 days later and nothing to show for it

Okay, my title is not ENTIRELY true. But I am going on my third weekend in a row without a date due chiefly to working the first weekend in February (darn private event industry eating into my weekends!), having my best friend in town last weekend, and...I have no excuse this weekend and I know it.

Here's something I've learned in the last 20 days: I am a total sucker for guys that play hard-to-get.

Example A: SmartyPants. Why won't this guy just ask me out!? I think his job keeps him as busy as mine does, and the flirting is non-stop, but I am READY.

Valentine's Day and I had planned to go home, drink a glass of wine and toast my singledom and go to sleep. Well, then I stumbled into some tickets to a show that a couple of my friends were singing/playing in at Crown Center, so I spent the morning feeling like the last single person on earth as I couldn't even pin down a FRIEND to go with me. Then, I thought, "hey, girl, balls up and see if SmartyPants has a hot date"

The following text conversation is verbatim, parentheticals are my thoughts:

Me: "Happy Singles Awareness Day!"
SP: "Thanks for reminding me!"
Me: "Misery loves company."
SP: "Is that supposed to cheer me up?"
Me: "No, but if it was then I would suck at cheering up. Hot date tonight?"
(this is CODE, dude, READ THE SUBTEXT)
SP: "Do YOU have a hot date tonight?"
(Would I be talking to you if I did? okay, maybe I would. I hate answering questions with questions)
Me: "Did you just answer a question with a question?"
SP: "Yes. I do that a lot."
(I don't answer because I don't know what to say. Twenty minutes later...)
SP: "But nice job of also avoiding answering MY question."
(oh lord, i don't play flirty coy well for long)
ME: "Alright, you win the who-can-be-coyer context. i stumbled backwards into two tickets for a musical cabaret show tonight. So...if you DON'T have a hot date...."
(this is ALSO code, dude, I'm asking you out, i KNOW you know it!)
SP:"....?"
(REALLY?! Really, you're going to make me come all the way out and ask you out on VALENTINE'S DAY for Christ's sake...bow out now if you don't wanna go! just do it! I waited thirty minutes, grew some balls, and then...)
Me: "Okay, if you say "hell no" to me on Valentine's Day and I stick my head in an oven as a result, that's on you. I want to meet you. Live and in person. Would you accompany me tonight?"
(A hundred points to me for being bold.)
SP: "Damn...where was this invitation last week? I'm working late tonight since everyone else had plans and I didn't have any."
(I die a little here in embarassment, but quickly...)
SP:"...but I agree with you. i want to meet you too. We should make that happen"
Me: "Well, I guess that a nice alternative to "hell, no" even if it IS still rejection on valentine's day."

So, then he's working late alot this week and we continue to exchange flirty texts. I appreciate he's busy, I was freaking busy too this week, which make me, in fact, like him more and get more frustrated by the situation on a daily basis.

Then last night I get a "whatcha up to, suga?" text at about 6 PM...and I missed it because my phone was in another room and I was watching a movie. And by the time I wrote back pretty much just that capped with a "hoppin' Saturday night?" he didn't ever text back. Now, granted, I did the same thing to him last weekend when my friend was in town, but what's a girl gotta do here?!

Is this what it feels like to date ME? I know i'm busy and I conduct myself in a similar fashion, so hot damn, it both makes a person crazy and, simultaneously, makes me want to meet him all the more.

I might have problems. Or, I'm also suddenly thinking about this article I read about women with commitment issues or who AREN'T read to settle down being attracted to unavailable men (i.e. married men, men in relationships, men with commitment problems) because, subconsciously they're "safe." that is, you know it's going nowhere.

I don't feel this way about SmartyPants. In fact, we're facebook friends, something I thought I would NOT be with anyone off match because, well, there are some inherent issues with it. He doesn't post on my wall, but I posted last Saturday on facebook that I had no desire to get out of bed and got a text that said "then don't" in response to my facebook post.

I'm thinking a lot about all of this, which clearly means I like him. I gotta get this pony show on the road. However, I also am not going to be the one to ask him out again which I did LAST week. He better figure that OUT.

In the meantime, the firefighter and I have stopped messaging. I was bored, and I think we could both tell there was no spark.

I got my first message from another single parent. He lives in Olathe and has two kids according to match. I messaged him back. I shall deem him Olathe Single Parent. OSP, unless a better nickname comes up.

Also got a message from a very cute ginger country boy who unfortunately lived in Topeka and I counted him out by virtue of distance and his raging country-ness. I seem to be attracting a lot of country boys. I don't know why or what this means, but they're the ones responding to my profile the most with lots of "i like your style"s which I find strange because I pretty much declare my independence, how liberal I am, and that I'm a little bit of a firecracker. These things seem opposite to most country boys I've known. I read THEIR profiles and go "ohhhhh no no no no no" to most of them. They generally all read about how hard working, man's man they are and how they like the outdoors and fishing. There are also tend to be a lot of "I work hard and play hard" lines in country boy profiles. This means they work hard and drink themselves silly.

I'm annoyed with SmartyPants today for this interminable text affair, so I will go troll Match in retaliation (this is stupid, but I don't care. It's what I'm about to do).