Total Rewind # 6: "Look, we just took a relationship step!"

Wednesday night, DD and I find ourselves post-coital and I am blissfully drifting towards sleep when he asks "so...what are we doing here?"

"Having fun," I mumble against his chest, not opening my eyes. I have been working late all week...will be working late the rest of the week...and I am going to sleep. If DD and I have any problem it's that we appear to be incapable of going to sleep at a decent hour due to too much sex and yakking about our lives, our hopes, our dreams, our likes, our dislikes...and right now, apparently, the status of our relationship (or non-relationship as the case may be)

"Yes, but what do you want to be doing here?" he persists, emphasizes there is deeper meaning to this question.

GO TO SLEEP! It's after midnight! Let's talk about this later!

"What do YOU want to be doing here?" I counter, cracking one eye to look up at him and see that he, for his part, is WIDE awake and staring down at me intently.

"You know what I want. I've been pretty clear. You're the one playing it close to the vest," he says.

Bah humbug. We're going to have to talk about this. I sit up and cross my legs so I can look at him while I give my speech.

"I like you," I declare.

"I know," he says with a clear unspoken "but what does that mean?"

"Things are going great. Sometimes too great. It's weird that none of this is weird. I see you more in a week than I have seen anyone that I can remember recently. Your toothbrush got to stay in my bathroom. I just don't see why if things are this good NOW they won't be this good in three or four weeks when we can talk about this again. I just...I mean...I told you...slow and steady wins the race."

I'm going to have to work on this speech for next time. Hopefully I have a few weeks before we have it again.

By the look on DD's face, I'm not so sure.

"I get that, I guess. But, I mean, are you still wanting to see other people?"

Oh! I'd talked to a friend about this very thing this week when discussing labels, lack of labes, danger of labels, etc etc etc.

"No!" I exclaim, ready to roll. "In fact, I don't want to see other people NOR do I want to sleep with other people. And I'd like for you to not sleep with other people."

"Not an issue."

"Good, then, there's our relationship step for the day. We are not sleeping with other people. Just eachother," I say triumphantly.

He gives me a look. "I don't think there's a facebook status for that."

I grin. "Sure there is. 'It's complicated.'"

"This isn't complicated," he counters.

It's true. It's blissfully uncomplicated.

"Well, they don't have a "it's uncomplicated." I say.

Although at this rate with my neuroses, we may be "it's complicated" before we know it.