GD automatic renewals

I learned the hard way today that match.com automatically renews, rather than automatically cancels.

So, the adventure continues whether I like it or not.

SmartyPants and I are moving along. We caught lunch today and are going to the movies on Sunday. I think that we read too much into one another's texts - or at least I do on his, mostly because they sometimes come off so disinterested or snarky that I literally have to put down my phone and figure out if I've read some signal wrong.

My best friend said that this is game playing. I said that some of the fun of this is the constant one-upping but that I can see already it's going to be a big deal for one of us to get serious. She said "yeah, you're gonna have to do that at some point in a relationship"

And then I remembered why relationships make me nervous.

I'm not nervous yet. Honestly, I'm too busy at work to worry about a relationship yet, and I also think that even though Sunday will be, I guess, technically, date number 5 that I feel comfortable with where we're at but not ready to play house. That's a good place to be in.

I also got a request for a "semi-scandalous" photo from him to "tide him over" until the weekend. I asked another friend what this meant. She said it meant that the nature of our relationship will turn chiefly sexual. I'm not sure this is true as I've done nothing more than kiss this boy - although, that's requiring some increased restraint. I'm glad to be attracted to someone physically and as a person. This has been a HUGE sticking point for me in my recent dating life. Moreover, it's nice as a mama to have a guy - a single, never married guy of all things - to at least APPEAR to think I'm some sort of hot stuff. I mean, when I said I was taking me son to swim lessons Saturday morning, I got a text back that said "mmmm, [Little Red] in a swim suit" and I thought, "oh honey, I can dress to flatter my body in clothes, but the swimsuit is a particularly unforgiving garment, but I so appreciate that I've fooled you into thinking otherwise through force of personality or trick of light"

Now, having inadvertently signed myself up till July 5 (hello, world, remind me of this date to CANCEL unless I'm still woefully single by this date)I found myself clicking on a message from a 33-year-old divorcee tonight who has 2 teenage daughters. That feels a LITTLE close to me, but he's an attractive ginger (WHAT?! THEY EXIST?!) and has a great profile read. The most important line of which was "i don't want to be in a relationship just to be in a relationship - chemistry is important" How many dates in do you stop being a match troller? I mean, I guess after you have a conversation about it?

Knowing the current state of me and Smartypants and our snailpace serious talk, I think I'm in the clear on this for a while.

I hope.

Ah, and saw hot lawyer this weekend at a friend's bday party. God, he is HOT. and a lawyer. and funny. And he still chose to sleep on the floor next to the couch I slept on at the end of the night. Case closed, folks. And probably for the best.

An update is on the books for Sunday after my movie date with Smartypants to see "Arthur"

Oh WAIT, i have to repeat this. So, i invited Smartpants to a movie last week and made some sassy little comment like "wanna go to the movies so I can make a sly move on you in the dark?"

and the reply was:

"1) i don't think you have sly in your arsenal 2) should I bring my special popcorn bowl with the hole in the bottom and 3) what movie"

if i wasn't interested in this boy and knew his particular sense of push the boundaries humor, i would have run for the hills on this one.

Instead, I reply:

"1) you might be surprised 2) EW and 3) narrow to 3 movies you wouldn't hate and I'll pick the winner"

If that's not diplomatic dating, I don't know WHAT is.